November 20, 2017

New Year’s Resolutions For Men

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Tradition has it that when a new year begins, we should resolve to change something about ourselves to become better people.   I thought of 3 unfiltered, unadulterated resolutions for men and 5 for women (sorry ladies).  The men are up first.   In 2012, I hope you resolve to:

  1. Tell the truth in your romantic life.  Women are tired of the “I didn’t want to hurt you” or “I didn’t have my dad” excuses. You are an adult and are accountable for what you do despite how you were raised.  You treat women the way you do not because of your upbringing, but according to your own selfish desires.  You want options.   It makes you feel good about yourself as a man to know you can go back to where you once laid your hat.  You don’t feel like being honest because you really don’t want to explain yourself, and you feel like the truth may get you voted off the island.  Women won’t break if you tell them the truth.  Most women are big enough to handle whatever you throw at them, give or take a few tears.  You might stand a better chance of reconciling if you’re honest rather than leaving them hurt from your fade-away tactic or cheating.   Heck, these days some women will accept whatever arrangement you put on the table.  At least give them the option of deciding if they want to deal with it.
  2. Grow a pair.  There are too many men out there who are unwilling to take certain jobs because they don’t respect the type of work available or just don’t want to work.  Then you wonder why women belittle you or don’t know their place.  It’s because they’ve been forced to take YOURS!  Real men don’t shy away from responsibility and don’t let their egos hinder them from taking care of business.  Be a provider in your home, at the very least a partner.  If you’re in between jobs, make home life easier by helping out domestically.  Women respect men who bust their behinds for their families.  Nothing is beneath you when it comes to maintaining your household.
  3. Learn how to lead.  Men have a special, unique function in the world.  To be an effective leader you first need to know how to follow.  Throughout history prolific leaders submitted themselves to a higher calling and led selfless lives.  Today’s men lack that type of sacrifice.  They wear eggshell armor because they stand for nothing, trying to maintain their manhood with no substance to stand on.  Men, your ability to lead will come from your ability to follow.  Your ability to follow will come from the values and morals in which you hold dear.  When you stand for something other than yourself it is easier for women to support, trust, and stand behind you.   No matter how strong and intelligent women are, they want you to be stronger and more intelligent.  At the end of the day a woman wants a man she can admire and support.  If she makes you feel otherwise, it’s probably because you have failed at one or more of these resolutions.

Comments

  1. U did it again that was deep ….

  2. Couldn’t have said it better myself! Can’t wait to hear what you have to say for the ladies… Can’t point fingers without holding up a mirror to ourselves

  3. It’s always easier to run with an excuse rather than the truth. I myself will try and be a better person for the New Year, and that starts by being totally honest with myself!

  4. These are great Kay
    1.It’s simple respect is earned not given When you like you lose credibility. Make your word mean something.
    2. I tell people all the time you live for today to make it tomorrow. Regardless how much we think a job is beneath us we have to do whatever it takes(leagally) to provide for our family.
    3. Many men think they’re not capable of reading It would rather take a backseat And follow. I think some men don’t realize all it takes is one smart idea or plan to prove to a woman that he’s capable of leading. You can succeed if you don’t try So Make a plan stick to it see what happens. If you fail to plan then you plan to fail. Sorry I rambled on But I agree with you completly.
    Peace

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