September 26, 2017

Better Body, Better Lover?

Courtesy of jimmythomas.com

 

Does having biceps, triceps, a six-pack, and buns of steel really make you better in the bedroom?  According to Men’s Health Editor-in-Chief and New York Times Best Selling Author David Zinczenko, it can!

Why?  Because looking good gives you confidence.  When you are confident, you’re more apt to explore and take risks. The  Men, Love and Sex author says to women, “The better you feel about your body, the more you’ll do with ours!”

At first I thought this was a crock of you know what, but then I thought about the confidence factor.  When we are confident about the way we look we are more assertive, even aggressive, in all we do.  We know when we get our hair, nails, and toes done, find a pair of smoking hot heels and a fly fit…our inner Sasha Fierce is unleashed!  Looking good naked  can only give us more moxy!

As I read more of the, “What Does He Really Think About Your Body?” chapter, I was even more surprised at the results from a poll.  58 percent of 5,000 men said that intelligence was sexier than a great body!  So what does all that mean?  You guessed it, men are harder to figure out than we could ever imagine!

Seriously though, it shows that beauty starts within.  If you are a woman of intelligence and confidence, you are already sexy.  AND, an intelligent woman would want to lead a healthy lifestyle, not only to “look good” but to feel good as well.  When you are in shape and eat healthy, your energy level increases, as does your libido!

To close, you really don’t need a better body to be a better lover.  But you do need confidence.  I know plenty of confident people who are overweight and confident in themselves.  But I also know that plenty struggle with how they look in the buff and are afraid to try new things based on those  insecurities.  If you find yourself in that category (hand raised high), you know what to do.  Speaking of which, the gym awaits me!

Happy Healthy Living,

-KB

The Skinny on Being Skinny

Me and two tall class bikini competitors at Universe Weekend

My friend and I went to the Universe fitness competition in Miami this past weekend. I must say, I enjoyed myself thoroughly! Other than being around hundreds of folks that reminded me that I still have a long way to go to reach my fitness goals, I really was inspired by the people who were competing. Military men and women, firefighters, teachers, physical therapists, former athletes and Olympians were all there, showcasing their physiques for the world to see. There were several “biggest loser” success stories, from women and men losing over 100 pounds, to first time competitors over the age of 35, to grandmothers! I only watched the bikini and model competitions so I missed out on the eye candy for ladies. Sorry! But I did get a glimpse of a few men in the model competition.

Men – Model Competition

Last year’s model universe winner

My major take-away was the information I learned at a seminar held by nationally known fitness trainer and model, Jennifer Nicole Lee. Her personal story is amazing! She lost over 80 pounds AFTER the birth of her two children. Instead of talking about herself most of the time (like most famous people do when giving “how to” presentations), she talked about brand building and being your own publicist. Her insightfulness was refreshing, as her information was not only fitness focused, but for anyone interested in being their own boss.

At the end of the seminar a protegé of hers by the name of Nissa Salas shared her weight loss story. She’d lost over 100 pounds after having life saving surgery to remove a tumor. Not only did she use her tragedy for triumph, she also used it to launch a side career. It was inspiring to hear from women who had not only conquered their battle with obesity, but are using their personal victories to encourage others to do the same.

So what do they do to lose weight and look great? Well, nothing you haven’t heard before. They diet and exercise. They make their eating habits a way of life. They make sacrifices, like making time for exercise and getting enough rest. After Friday’s competition, most of the competitors headed to their rooms to prepare for the next day. The ones who hung out in the hotel lounge were rarely drinking. The few that were, weren’t getting hammered. And surprisingly, they were a close-knit group. They were encouraging each other and were rooting for each other, in spite of competing agaist each other!

In short, these people work extremely hard to maintain their physiques. Being in shape, or being “skinny” isn’t easy, especially with age. Genetics may play a part, but only a select few are that lucky. Most of them will tell you they work extremely hard and consistently eat well. So when those lights come on, they earn the right to flex!

Bikini Tall Class

Back view – Bikini Tall Class

Group Photo – Model Competition

Reading Is Power

I know I’ve been M.I.A. from my blog and I apologize. With track season in motion, I’ve had little down time to write. In fact, I’m posting this blog from my phone, so forgive me for any editorial mistakes now. Charge my head and not my heart!

I have been doing a lot of reading though. I’ve read three books so far this year, and re-read another from last year. Those books are:

  1. Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill,
  2. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith
  3.  Getting Started As A Freelance Writer by Robert Bly.

The book I reread from last year is titled  Author 101 by Robert Friskman. If you are an aspiring journalist, I recommend reading all of these. They are awesome starting blocks for launching your dreams into reality.

When I read Bly’s book, I learned about the business of freelance and entrepreneurship. From Goldsmith, I learned about the importance of fine tuning your personality. Hill’s book was about transferring dreams into reality, and Friskman’s focus was a detailed extension of Bly’s book, including details on writing style and marketing techniques. All three have given me a new perspective on life as well as my financial future.

I know that inside of some of you there lies a desire to do something different, perhaps to write a book or start a new career. I want to share with you my top 5 takeaways from all four books. I hope they help you as much as they have helped me!

  1. You must have a desire to acquire, belief that you will achieve and a plan to make it happen. If you do not believe in yourself or fail to plan how you are going to get what you want, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment.
  2.  You must start today. Not tomorrow, not Sunday, not after this, that, or the other. Time doesn’t wait and neither should you! Procrastination is cancerous! Once it forms in one area of your life, it will spread. Procrastination is why you haven’t started exercising, saving, went back to school or finished most of what you have started.
  3. Educate yourself and become a life long learner of your trade. Plan your work and work your plan. Being efficient takes effort, being exceptional requires more. You need both effort and skill. The only way to obtain and maintain success is through acquired skill and skill applied. Avoid becoming complacent, keep up with the trends of your trade. If you can stay a step ahead of them…even better!
  4. Tell yourself and others what you want. In fact, write it down somewhere, read it daily and meditate on it. When you meet new people, introduce yourself as the person you want to become. Tell them you are an aspiring writer, business owner, etc. Ask them to connect you with people who may mentor your or help you pursue your goals. Once you put it in the atmosphere, you will be holding yourself accountable and creating a support system. Your support system should hold you accountable too, which is why it should consist of people who will help you achieve your goals and provide constructive feedback. You will be allowing these people to speak into your life so they need to be intelligent, well informed, and as objective as possible. Fortifying your network with the right people is directly correlated to your success.
  5. Be patient, persistent and persevere. It may take longer than you would like. You may endure setbacks and rejection. You may lose friends, your social life, even a significant other. And if the time comes, you must be willing to pay whatever price it takes to achieve your goals. If your goals are S.M.A.R.T. (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, timely) and the intent of your financial success will benefit others, the sacrifice will be worth it. People will tell you that you can’t or will attempt to deter you. But keep pressing on! No matter what you desire to acquire, you will achieve if you believe. Plan your work and work your plan!

These tidbits are universal for all aspects of life. I’ll close with a scripture that changed my life, because it changed my mentality: “Do not conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Change the way you think!

All the best,

-KB

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